Ramblings and Ruminations

Slight change of plans.  David's bosses are being dickish again and have now reneged on their approval of his extra days off next week, so we will both be coming back on Monday.  I knew something was wrong last night when we went to dinner, but he wouldn't say anything.  As usual.  Sometimes the man drives me crazy.

Quick update on my adventure with da Sparrow yesterday.  We had a great time being girlie.  The bra place was fabulous!  Incredibly INDREDIBLY expensive bras, but the fittings were SO worth it!  Neither one of us were wearing the right size.  It seems the secret is tthreefold: wear your bra MUCH lower than you have been - just above your waist, lengthen those bra straps so you can wear the band lower and wear a smaller band size than you think you need.  I went down 2 sizes in band, one in cup size.  Sarah was waaaaay off but we both walked out wearing new, great-fitting bras and felt very snazzy.  Then we walked over to First Avenue and found a nail salon and both had manis and pedis.  Very relaxing and enjoyable.  Took the train home and David picked us up and we had the aforementioned dinner. 

The car is almost loaded and I need to grab some breakfast before we go.  Have a great weekend all...  I am taking my laptop with me after all, so I might be online...

David and I will be heading out on a road trip starting tomorrow morning and I don't think I'm going to bring my laptop with me, so I will be AFK for a few days.  We're driving up to Rochester for a wedding here on Saturday.  David grew up in Rochester and lived there until about 7 years ago.  His best friend is a great guy named JC and his daughter Molly is getting married.  For those of you who know what Wegmans is, she is marrying into that august family.  This wedding should be fairly high tone.  I will probably sit in a corner and try to look inconspicuous. 

I have my outfit.  I'll be wearing a long black skirt with a black silk shell and a beautiful silk jacket that I found in a shop near my house.  It's hard to describe, but it is very sheer, with painted panels with green, blue and yellow.  I'll have to post pictures because it is really lovely.  Still trying to figure out what shoes to wear.  I have some simple black pumps as a fall back position, but I might try to find something a little prettier.  David has his clothes but he does not have any appropriate shoes, so I foresee a visit to the outlet mall near Rochester in our future.  Like tomorrow.

I'm going to fly home on Monday and David will stay up in Rochester for a few extra days and hang out with JC at his house.  Work is really slow for him right now, so it's a good time for him to take some days and get to spend time with his friends.  I think he's planning on coming home on Wednesday.  I just hope this doesn't interfere with him taking the time off at the end of August when we want to go up to Vermont.

I feel a little weird about going to the wedding.  So far, I have only met JC and his kids (he also has a wonderful son, Charlie).  At the wedding I will be meeting lots of the people that David knows in Rochester, most of whom he hasn't seen for a long time.  I can get kind of shy (I know - MOI?  SHY?  Yes, it happens.) when I am in a crowd like that.  There is even a chance - slim, but a possibility - that David's ex-wife will be there.  I doubt it, but she is the one who originally introduced JC to his wife, so it could happen.  Now that would be weird with a capital Strange.  

This afternoon Sarah is coming up to my office and we're going to go off and do girlie things.  We're going to (finally!) get properly fitted for bras here and then go for manicures and pedicures.  I love spending time with her and yes, we are in the countdown to the second migration of the fledglings back to Vermont.  Less than 6 weeks...

So have a great weekend folks.  I will do my best to catch up with everything when I get back home.

*hugs* to them that wants 'em!

So David is winging his way down to Texas.  He rode in on the LIRR with me this morning, even though his flight didn't leave until about noon.  He's been very affectionate and almost clingy with me in the last week or so.  Might have something to do with me pulling away a little emotionally.  I do that when I feel threatened and scared.  I start to shut down some of my feelings in order to protect myself.  

I have an appointment with Elliot the Wonder Therapist for next Thursday at 3:30, ironically about an hour before David's plane lands back at Newark.  It was the first one I could get since Elliot is semi-retired these days and not keeping as many office hours.  I think it will do me a world of good to hash this out with him.  He knows me very well and went through all kinds of major life events with me.

So I have some things planned for my "bachelorette" time.  I'm having dinner on Saturday with Lauren, Aaron's girlfriend.  I'm having brunch on Sunday morning with my friends Lisa and Trish.  Trish is battling State 4 breast cancer and planning fun stuff with her is high on my list of things to do this year.  And I'm having dinner with another friend after work on Tuesday, so between all this and enjoying some down time I think the week will be fine.

How's life in your world these days?

Because he takes pictures like this and sends them to me, telling me how much he loves me and loves when we share moments like this.  This is from the trip we took up to Vermont at the beginning of June for Sarah's UVM orientation.  Sigh...

I've not been a very good correspondent lately and for that I apologize.  In addition to the usual crazy busy schedule with work and home there was a bit of a crisis in my relationship with David.  We've talked it through, cried a bit and we're OK.  But the side effect was that I really didn't want to post for a bit because I'm just not ready to open up about some things.  

I do want to go on record thanking David for being a great step-father to my kids.  He's been amazing with both of them, especially Sarah.  Given the poor example of their own father, I am so glad that David has stepped up and shown them what a good man is.

I miss my dad today too.  It's been 9 years since he passed and it still makes me rather sad.

Now I need to wake David up from his snooze so we can go have dinner.  Comfort food - in the form of our favorite Italian place - awaits.

Happy Father's Day to all the dads - biological and not - out in my LJ group.

From starjourneying.  And because it is almost 8 AM and no one is up but me on this glorious Vermont morning and I am bored.

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