Mar. 10th, 2010

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For the longest time, I was convinced that I did not want to have children - ever.  I did not have the greatest childhood and I saw no reason to perpetuate this insanity.  My childhood mimicked my mom's in many ways - older brother who was doted on, daughter who was ignored and pretty much left to raise herself.  I felt that I would be condemning any children I might have to this and I wanted no part of it. 

This feeling lasted until my early 20s when I did a complete 180 degree reversal.  I can't point to anything in particular that happened to make me change; all I know is that I began to want to have children very much.  When I got married, I had this feeling that I was marrying this man solely to create the 2 children I knew we would have.  He wanted to have children too, although I can't really see why because he has been a very neglectful and downright abusive father.  I did learn that I am a really good mother.  I learned that even if you had a lousy childhood you don't have to repeat the mistakes of the past.  I raised my son and daughter solo and they are turning out to be wonderful adults, of whom I am very proud.
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For the longest time, I was convinced that I did not want to have children - ever.  I did not have the greatest childhood and I saw no reason to perpetuate this insanity.  My childhood mimicked my mom's in many ways - older brother who was doted on, daughter who was ignored and pretty much left to raise herself.  I felt that I would be condemning any children I might have to this and I wanted no part of it. 

This feeling lasted until my early 20s when I did a complete 180 degree reversal.  I can't point to anything in particular that happened to make me change; all I know is that I began to want to have children very much.  When I got married, I had this feeling that I was marrying this man solely to create the 2 children I knew we would have.  He wanted to have children too, although I can't really see why because he has been a very neglectful and downright abusive father.  I did learn that I am a really good mother.  I learned that even if you had a lousy childhood you don't have to repeat the mistakes of the past.  I raised my son and daughter solo and they are turning out to be wonderful adults, of whom I am very proud.

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