I mean with me. As the lovely karlita
nudged me recently, I haven't posted in a while. Mostly because I've been so busy I haven't had any time. Since my former assistant, Chris, left near the end of January I have been working like a mad woman. This is SO not a one person job. Of course as soon as Chris left all kinds of cases started coming out of the woodwork. While I am glad that the Litigation department seems to have caught on to the reason I am here, it does make it difficult to keep up with everything. However, I am thrilled that the woman I first interviewed for a replacement accepted the offer last night. She probably won't actually start and be useful until sometime in the middle of April, but at least I know there is light at the end of the tunnel. I hated interviewing anyone else after I met with Jeanette - she is perfect and we both knew it. But I had to go through the motions and see more candidates just to keep HR happy. All's well that ends well.
I am looking forward to Spring and the coming of birds, flowers, warmer weather and BASEBALL. As cazul_blue
reminded us all yesterday, we have to set the clocks ahead on Sunday. I don't really hold with Congress screwing around with our time but I will enjoy the added light at the end of the day even if it does mean getting up in the dark again for a little while. And anything that gets us closer to opening day at Shea is all good in my opinion.
David and I need to plan some long weekends away. The Lilac Festival
in Rochester, NY is on the horizon and I know we'll go up for that and get to see his best friend, JC again which is always fun. But I'm thinking that we need to plan for something else too. Both of us have been very stressed and tired and we need a break. The kids are going away with idiotboy for the week of April 19 - 26 and I'm debating whether we should get away then too or just stay home and enjoy the solitude. Jury's still out on that one. (For those who may be new to this journal, idiotboy or IB is how I refer to my ex-husband, when I'm not calling him buttface or BF.)
I have a moral dilemma to consider these days. According to my divorce decree, if idiotboy pays any child support at all - even the measly $100 a week I have garnished from his salary - he gets to claim the kids as tax deductions. Since $5200 a year doesn't make much of a dent in supporting 2 teenagers on Long Island, I really think this is unfair. Even the nice lady I spoke to at the IRS last week thinks it is unfair. Well, I filed my 2007 taxes a couple of weeks ago and my accountant messed up and listed the kids as deductions on my return. Evidently idiotboy has not filed his yet, which I found surprising. Every year he brings me the paper from the IRS that I have to sign that gives him permission to claim the kids. Usually he is Johnny on the spot with this, shoving it at me through the door sometime right after New Year's Day. This year I hadn't heard from him about it and I was puzzled but I try not to concern myself with his doings much. But sure as God made little green apples, this week Sarah came home from dinner with him bearing a little envelope with said form for me to sign. Oops. Too late. I've already filed.
So my dilemma is this: do I do the "nice" thing and amend my taxes to let him take the deductions or do I put my foot down and say that it isn't right that he should get the deduction and let him chase me for it? I'm not sure what the ramifications are if I stand firm. The decree does say that he gets the deductions, but he does not support these kids. I do. $100 a week doesn't even cover the grocery bill for 2 teenagers. He's never contributed a penny towards their orthodontia (over $15,000 and counting for both), school costs ($600 for Sarah's chorus trip to Boston this year alone), clothing (don't ask), and all the rest. He's also on the hook for Aaron's college costs and I know I will never see a penny of that.
So my thought is that I will tell idiotboy when he calls me - and he will - that I will waive his having to contribute half the college expenses (which will increase mightily when Sarah goes to college in the fall of 2009) and he will let me keep the tax deductions on the kids.
Any thoughts on this from anyone?