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As in, I am glad I am not one.  I have a friend who is almost at the end of her divorce process.  She's been through a lot with her stbx - he's a cheap, mean-spirited man who still cannot understand why she left him.  She has to co-parent with him and I know that has been difficult.  However, they are almost done - just waiting for the judge to sign off on the order.  Her 2 boys are doing well, she's living in a nice apartment and getting ready to lease another new car.  She has a great job near home and that's going well too.

But... (and you knew there would be a but here didn't you?) she seems to be turning into a real self-centered hardass.  When we IM - which is our main point of communication - she is all about her: what's going on in HER life with HER family and HER job and HER love life, etc.  When I told her about my trip to CA being cancelled and that I was really disappointed and sad about it, I didn't get even the slightest "O too bad" from her.  She immediately switched the topic back to her latest date from match.com.  She wasn't like this before.  Lately, she comes off so hard it is getting a little scary.  She's SO down on men in general - it's a wonder she gets any dates at all.  Well, not really.  She's very pretty, petite, slim, active and vivacious so it's no suprise that guys fall all over her.  However, her negative mindset and sense of entitlement is (I believe) driving all her dates away.  She's pissed that the guy she's had 3 dates with is still on match.com looking for who else is out there, but she is doing the same thing!  She's talking to at least 2 other guys and even met one for a drink and had plans to meet another one.  So why is it OK for her to do it but not him?  She wants guys to jump through hoops for her, if they don't call exactly when they say they will she cuts them off at the knees and never speaks to them again and she seems to think she should be treated like a perpetual princess.

I hope this is a temporary thing and is directly related to her divorce being almost final.  Because if this is how she really is, she's going to be alone for a long time.
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As in, I am glad I am not one.  I have a friend who is almost at the end of her divorce process.  She's been through a lot with her stbx - he's a cheap, mean-spirited man who still cannot understand why she left him.  She has to co-parent with him and I know that has been difficult.  However, they are almost done - just waiting for the judge to sign off on the order.  Her 2 boys are doing well, she's living in a nice apartment and getting ready to lease another new car.  She has a great job near home and that's going well too.

But... (and you knew there would be a but here didn't you?) she seems to be turning into a real self-centered hardass.  When we IM - which is our main point of communication - she is all about her: what's going on in HER life with HER family and HER job and HER love life, etc.  When I told her about my trip to CA being cancelled and that I was really disappointed and sad about it, I didn't get even the slightest "O too bad" from her.  She immediately switched the topic back to her latest date from match.com.  She wasn't like this before.  Lately, she comes off so hard it is getting a little scary.  She's SO down on men in general - it's a wonder she gets any dates at all.  Well, not really.  She's very pretty, petite, slim, active and vivacious so it's no suprise that guys fall all over her.  However, her negative mindset and sense of entitlement is (I believe) driving all her dates away.  She's pissed that the guy she's had 3 dates with is still on match.com looking for who else is out there, but she is doing the same thing!  She's talking to at least 2 other guys and even met one for a drink and had plans to meet another one.  So why is it OK for her to do it but not him?  She wants guys to jump through hoops for her, if they don't call exactly when they say they will she cuts them off at the knees and never speaks to them again and she seems to think she should be treated like a perpetual princess.

I hope this is a temporary thing and is directly related to her divorce being almost final.  Because if this is how she really is, she's going to be alone for a long time.

TGIF!

Jun. 22nd, 2007 10:08 am
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So it is finally Friday and it is date night.  David decided last week - with my hearty approval - that we should make every Friday night date night and go out, just the 2 of us.  Now it isn't like we've never done this but usually our Friday nights consisted of just having a nice dinner at our favorite local Italian place and going home.  David thinks we should formalize this a bit and hang out in the city and do something special, then have dinner and head home.  Last week we went to the New York Historical Society and had a great time seeing the exhibit on Clara Driscoll and the Tiffany girls, the women behind some of Tiffany's most famous and beautiful designs.  We wandered over to Columbus Avenue and found an Italian place (big surprise!) and had a good meal and went home.  Tonight I think we are going over to the Chelsea Piers to watch my firm's big soccer match.  Free drinks, good company and a chance to see some of my co-workers in action.  

It's kind of interesting that 2 years into our relationship we are suddenly dating.  You see we pretty much skipped the dating part of our relationship - that period where you see each other for planning events and wait breathlessly to call, etc.  From the minute we met in person on June 25, 2005 we have been a couple.  There was never any question about it.  But it is nice to do the dating thing. 

TGIF!

Jun. 22nd, 2007 10:08 am
kukla_red: (Default)
So it is finally Friday and it is date night.  David decided last week - with my hearty approval - that we should make every Friday night date night and go out, just the 2 of us.  Now it isn't like we've never done this but usually our Friday nights consisted of just having a nice dinner at our favorite local Italian place and going home.  David thinks we should formalize this a bit and hang out in the city and do something special, then have dinner and head home.  Last week we went to the New York Historical Society and had a great time seeing the exhibit on Clara Driscoll and the Tiffany girls, the women behind some of Tiffany's most famous and beautiful designs.  We wandered over to Columbus Avenue and found an Italian place (big surprise!) and had a good meal and went home.  Tonight I think we are going over to the Chelsea Piers to watch my firm's big soccer match.  Free drinks, good company and a chance to see some of my co-workers in action.  

It's kind of interesting that 2 years into our relationship we are suddenly dating.  You see we pretty much skipped the dating part of our relationship - that period where you see each other for planning events and wait breathlessly to call, etc.  From the minute we met in person on June 25, 2005 we have been a couple.  There was never any question about it.  But it is nice to do the dating thing. 

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